Who are you prepared to become in order to get the things that you want? I talked about clarity in one of my April Being Yourself blogs. When you finally have clarity over what it is that you want, I encourage you to start working on achieving those outcomes before you are ready. Become the person who does and has those things that you want.

If you want to have a successful business, you need to become the sort of person who is committed, disciplined, relentless, organised and has the capacity for unexpected occurrences and for things out of your control.

To have a loving relationship, you’ll need time available to be able to nurture another human being as well as yourself, the willingness to understand different points of view even if they oppose your own, and the desire to put time and effort into growing a relationship.

If you want to improve your finances, you need to be able to manage money well now, regardless of the amount.

Start before you are ready. Consider WHO you need to become to make your goals and desires happen. Do you need to create the mentality of a business owner? The daily routine of a healthy person? The mindset of someone who has found their ideal partner and is deeply in love? The money management habits of a wealthy person – even if you are only applying them to a small amount of money.

Create the mindset and the habits, but also consider practical actions you could take, not only to help with your goal realisation, but also to further improve your mindset.

Open an investment account, even if you only put £1 in it. The container is there, ready to hold more money in the future. It feels like a positive step. Talk about the outcome you want. Tell a friend you feel ready to meet someone. Do some market research around the business you are thinking about starting. Talk to others in that industry. Think about what your business name might be. Visit a gym and ask about membership. Book some viewings on houses in the area you’d like to move to.

Start talking about your goals as if they are happening right now – as though you are the person who is making them come true. Instead of ‘I’d like to…’, ‘Hopefully…’, or ‘If I…’, say ‘I am…’, ‘I’m working on…’, or ‘When I…’.

Do whatever you can to FEEL like the person who has the things that you want.


PS – If you want some more guidance and to ponder on the big questions in life, why not check out the Philosopher-in-Residence series. Out every fortnight on a Thursday, and written by our Principal Planner, Anna Pascoe.  You can take a peek at the latest edition here: ON ME - Make Me A Plan